As divorce solicitors in East London, we understand that deciding to separate from your partner can be a confusing and upsetting decision. It’s not something that should be rushed into when angry – it should be properly talked through beforehand.
Whilst we can’t tell you what choice to make – we can make it easier for you. If you’ve been thinking of filing for divorce then we think you should consider the following things before making any decisions.
Have You Both Talked It Through Rationally?
We’ve all said things we regret in the heat of the moment, especially during a particular nasty argument. If you’ve been arguing with your husband and you scream that you want a divorce – this could be a knee jerk reaction to a heated dispute.
You should talk it through when you have both calmed down. Is this something you have been thinking about for a while? Is it more than just an angry response to another fight? If it is something you’ve been considering, separation may be the right thing.
How Long Have You Been Unhappy?
A divorce is usually the result of a break down in a marriage. This could be for several reasons, including issues that can’t be resolved such as cheating or alcohol/drug problems or because there isn’t any love in the marriage anymore.
Some people stick with relationships to make their partner happy, regardless of their own feelings. This isn’t healthy. A marriage should work for both of you and you should both be happy. You need to be honest with yourself – are you happy? If you’re not, how long have you been feeling like this?
Are You Only Together Because Of The Children?
Whilst divorce can be difficult for the children, you shouldn’t try to make a relationship work just for the children alone. You do need to consider them in your decision but they shouldn’t be the reason for why you stay together. If your only reason for staying together is because of the children – it’s time to consider that divorce.
Will You Be Happier Alone?
You might be arguing a lot now but you need to look past the anger to make a decision. Can you picture yourself one year from now? Do you imagine yourself away from your partner and happy for it? If so, then you probably have your answer.
If you’ve decided that separating is the best thing for your relationship, please don’t hesitate to contact us. Archstone Solicitors have professional divorce solicitors that will be happy to provide you with expert legal advice. They know it’s a difficult period and are fully trained to approach the situation with the upmost care and understanding.
Just give us a call on 020 8534 8008 and we will be happy to arrange an appointment.